Grace and courtesy is an essential part of the Montessori curriculum, but what exactly is grace and courtesy? Why and how do we teach grace and courtesy? Who should practice grace and courtesy? Where and when should grace and courtesy be used?

Grace is the way a person holds themselves physically–a relationship between mind and body. Courtesy is how we handle ourselves and the energy we put forward for the benefit of others.

A child who becomes a master of his acts through...repeated exercises (of grace and courtesy), and who has been encouraged by the pleasant and interesting activities in which he has been engaged, is a child filled with health and joy and remarkable for his calmness and discipline.
— Dr. Maria Montessori

We teach Grace and Courtesy lessons so that the children are exposed to different social situations and to be prepared to know how to handle these situations. With practice, they become more confident in how they handle themselves amongst their peers and are more willing to help those children that are still unsure of themselves or the situation.

So how do we teach Grace and Courtesy in the classroom? Each lesson isolates the behavior that needs modeling. Let’s take waiting for the restroom as an example. We use role play in small groups where everyone has an opportunity to practice. We model to the children how to knock on the door to see if someone is in the restroom. We give an example of what the child inside the restroom should say. Then we give an example of what the waiting child should say. There are many other lessons we would give such as how and when to say excuse me, how to watch someone do their work, how to open a door, how to close a door, how to comfort a child, how to ask for help, how to decline help, among many others.

Who should practice Grace and Courtesy? Simply put…everyone. As adults, we are the main role model for our children. They are astute learners and are listening and watching everything we do. Even when we don’t think they are paying attention or are not within listening range. They watch how we interact with other adults, how we speak to others on the phone, how we engage drivers on the road. How we treat our loved ones.

Where and when should Grace and Courtesy be used? Everywhere and all the time. At the dinner table, engage in meaningful conversations instead of scrolling through our phones. Modeling please and thank you and opening the door for someone, are other ways to show strategies on how to navigate interactions that will benefit them throughout life.  

Grace and Courtesy lessons will help the child through out their life to be respectful and compassionate members of society and loving stewards of this planet. 

Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.
— Charles R. Swindoll


Peek Inside our Children's House Classrooms

Cactus Wren 

Dear Cactus Wren Families,

Welcome back to all the returning families and a warm welcome to all our new Cactus Wren members. This August we welcomed Daisy, Elena, Henry, Mac, Payton, Stephen, and Zaiiden to our family. It is so nice to see all the bright smiles and sparkling eyes full of excitement and eagerness to learn. Ms. Eugenia and I hope you all had a restful and peaceful summer break.

This month we have been busy with all our Grace and Courtesy lessons, getting reacquainted with all our past exercises, and receiving lots of new lessons. Thank you to all who attended our first Parent Meeting on Wednesday. I hope to see everyone at all the future Parent Meetings. Even though we are together for 3 to 4 years, your child’s academic knowledge changes and it is always nice to see how far they have come in their Montessori journey.

We look forward to an amazing year filled with joy, lots of laughter, knowledge, and most of all, love.

Ms. Johna and Ms. Eugenia




It’s with great excitement that we welcome our new families to the Jackrabbit classroom and welcome back our “old” friends and their families. The children have been so excited to be back and could hardly wait to share their wonderful summer adventure stories. The returning children have been so wonderful welcoming their new classmates. We are looking forward to continue growing our wonderful Jackrabbit community. This year we also welcome a new assistant, Ms. Claudia, into our environment. I can tell the children are already warming up to her and love listening to her Spanish songs and group games. I would like to thank Easton and his family for taking care of the fish all summer as well as Ava for providing a summer home for our birds.

Thank you for your trust and support. We are looking forward to a wonderful year filled with new experiences and the beginning of lifetime of memories. 

Warm regards, 

Miss Marcela and Miss Claudia



Bobcat Families,

It has been wonderful getting to know your children over the last couple weeks of school! I am grateful for the opportunity to be a part of the Creo community and I am looking forward to our year. The children have been excited to get their hands back on the work and receive new lessons. I am able to see their independence and concentration already developing in our classroom.

The Bobcat room welcomes the new faces that have joined our classroom! Our leaders in the classroom have become wonderful helpers in guiding our new students. They are always ready to help or answer questions when the need arises.

It has been a pleasure meeting all of you and I look forward to learning more about you and your child through out the year. Thank you to those who came to our first classroom meeting, we had a great turn out and you were able to see the changes in the classroom!

Thank you,

Ms. Haley, Ms. Leydi, and Ms. Julia


Gray Fox 

Gray Fox Families,

Welcome and welcome back! It’s been a wonderful start to the year; we can tell by all the smiles! We were excited to welcome five new friends to our class this month and are enjoying getting to know them better. A special thank you to all who attended our first Community Meeting. These are essential in understanding your child’s daily life in the Children’s House as well as how to support Montessori learning at home.

The children have been eager and enthusiastic to dive into work and build friendships. We started baking strawberry and banana muffins and the children have had opportunities to practice serving guests. Thank you to Mr. Paul for helping the children jumpstart their garden. I can’t wait see all of the excitement emerge as the plants begin to grow! During group times, we’ve enjoyed discussing summer vacations, cloudy-day nature walks, mindfulness practice, listening to folk music and (of course) lots of reading aloud. In addition, we’ve seen some awesome items for Show and Share.  

Ms. Yadira and I are grateful to play a role in your family’s life during your child’s time in the Children’s House. Please contact me with questions, concerns or just to say hello! I feel as though open lines of communication between the parent, teacher and child are key to promote an educational environment that is conducive to learning.

We are looking forward to a year full of new friends, adventures, and new discoveries!


Ms. Lauren and Ms. Yadira

AuthorJohna Martinez